You want to control your girlfriend. But is it possible or are there other better ways to solve your problems? In this blog, I’ll show you what you can do best for your situation. Because I think I know why you want to control her.
To be a controlling boyfriend, you have to make her work the way you want. You have to take control of your hand and that will make you a controlling boyfriend. For this you need to create your own rules and stick to them..
In fact, I am not in favor of a controlling boyfriend. And really, I don’t want you to go down this wrong path. I think you can do better to make it just yours. I ask you to read it till the end because I think it will help you a lot.
Why do some men try to be a controlling boyfriend?
Some men try to be a controlling boyfriend because they want to lose their daughter. The main reason this thought is a controlling man is insecurity. A thought that she will leave you or cheat on you. I do not blame you. It is a natural feeling when we see something wrong.
A lot of girls don’t realize but they start to make us feel insecure about their behavior. They try to cross the line of the relationship and here all the mess is created. She thinks it’s her right to be free, but she forgets that the relationship has limits.
If you think you should be controlling your girlfriend, it means she has a lot of male friends. Or, I say so called friends, you don’t know what they are, friend or more than that. Here are a few points that in my opinion make a boyfriend unsure of his daughter.
- She talks with her friend hours. Some group time and some private time.
- When she talks to her friend, she ignores your call.
- She keeps lying to you. Sometimes you don’t have to lie, but even she’s lying to you.
- Her male friends make dirty jokes at her. Comment on her private parts. And it puts you in danger because you know the nature of the boy.
- She loves adult talk with her male friends and when you ask she says we are the only friend.
- You saw some fake stuff on her phone and when you asked she gave you some absurd reason for it. Like I was drunk then or It’s not me… so on.
- She goes to clubs and parties with her male friends who are hiding from you.
- She is still talking to her ex-boyfriend. Here’s why?
There are so many that make us feel bad but above there are a few. If you think I missed anything important let me know in the comment.
Should you be a controlling boyfriend?
Not at all. I know she’s wrong with you but that’s her nature. You are not like her. If you want to control it, let me tell you, you can’t. And you shouldn’t. If you want to change yourself just for that girl who doesn’t care about you, you are the dumbest person in this world.
It’s true that you need to do something about it, but it’s not what you think. You don’t have to be a controlling boyfriend. You can do a lot better on this. I’ll show you later what to do if I don’t let you control her.
Why has your girlfriend always hurt you?
Girls always hurt their boyfriends. Sometimes ignorance and sometimes by intention. But the point here is not why she hurt you. Or it shouldn’t hurt. It’s a different thing. The main point here is what hurts you. The thing it does is inside or outside the border.
Sometimes men are hurt when their girlfriends fail to call them. Its find because it is in the limit. But if he injures himself because his daughter never calls or texts him, it’s out of bounds. He must be healed or he must end his relationship.
Your daughter has hurt you because she thinks everything she does is right. According to her, everything she does is right and bordering on the relationship. She thinks it’s her right to talk with her male friends. And I think she’s right, but there are limits. And you must have to define them.
You have to talk to him and tell him what you like or whatever. This is all due to different points of view. And you have to show him your point of view. This is the first step you can take. Below are the steps you can take to improve your condition. Read on and make sure she gets within her limits.
The best you can do in this situation:
This is the first step. She’s not going with you because she might not know your feelings. Maybe she thinks that’s okay with you. But you are not and that is perfectly fine. Even I felt this situation when my daughter was talking to her ex. It was a very bad feeling. 🙁
So here all you have to do is talk. Go talk to him politely. Share your feelings with her. Tell her how bad you feel when her male friends make sexual comments to her. Tell her that sounds degrading to you and since she is your girlfriend, you have a right to intervene in between.
Believe me if she loves you and has respect in her heart, she will definitely understand. Even she will promise never to do it again. So give it a try and see what happens.
2. Make limits
Now you have told him how you feel. But it’s not over yet. When you tell her about your feelings, there’s a good chance she’ll apologize instantly. And she will do the same again. Momen is very intelligent. I think intelligence is in the girl’s genes. So she will immediately say sorry and try to close the topic.
But wait until you are not finished yet. Now you need to create limits. It’s up to you to choose what you want from her. But keep in mind that you should only limit the things that you think affect your relationship. Do not enter his personal space.
If she’s gearing up to keep your relationship alive, that’s great. But if starts saying that she will do whatever she wants. This then means that the time has come to end your relationship. You don’t have to be in a relationship where you’re not happy. Because if you respect yourself, others will respect you.
Don’t think that I don’t know what it feels like to end a relationship with someone. Because I did it myself. The girl I told you above who was talking to her ex. It was she who was not ready to follow the limits. So I ended the relationship with her. And believe me, it was one of the best decisions of my life.
You might think that if you end your relationship with her, you’ll never find another girl. This line is total bullshit. This world has 8 billion inhabitants and 49.6% of them are women. And you only need one of them. Go create an account on eharmony then start looking for your soul mate. Believe me, you won’t be disappointed.
3. Convert to badass
I think it’s the best a guy can do. There are two ways to be successful. Either you try to downgrade your target or you improve. And I think upgrading yourself is the best approach. My ex-girlfriend still calls me and tries to get the relationship back.
Do you know what is the main reason your daughter ignores you? The guy he’s talking to is way better than you. It’s not the truth but it’s what she thinks. I know you’re a nice guy, but girls don’t prefer nice guys. You must be upgraded to your badass version.
It’s not an overnight thing. It will take time, but once you are upgraded she will be the one begging you to be your girlfriend. No need to be a controlling boyfriend. Be a badass and enjoy your life with whoever you want. If you wanna be that one, watch this badass guide. This will teach you all the skills you needed.